Hello! Can you believe it’s been two whole years to the day since I read that MRI report and looked at that image of Bob on my brainstem? I’m a bit amazed myself. Wow! What a trip, what a life. The way my diagnosing neurologist put it, I should have been dead a year ago. HA! That’ll teach him to say something that terrible to a patient.
I was mad at that doctor for such a long time for saying that to me, then it occurred to me yesterday that if he hadn’t told me that I’d be lucky to make it to a year, I may not feel so much gratitude for still being alive! I would more likely be wallowing in self-pity for having a brain tumor. I love how a matter of perspective can change thoughts and feelings about a situation.
The absolute truth remains the same, there is a tumor on my brainstem. The way I feel about and experience that truth has changed dramatically in the course of two years.
It took a while for the shock to wear off enough to feel anything at all. I existed for months outside of my body, watching from a distance in disbelief at the turn my life had taken. I tried to figure out what I was supposed to be feeling. I found myself alternately laughing and crying, as if I were watching a tragic comedy. I could not admit to my friends or family that along with fear, I sometimes felt a sense of relief that I could die soon. I had struggled with such terrible bouts of depression in my life that I welcomed a way out in which I could not be to blame. Later on, I began to blame myself for getting the tumor. As though all those times that I had felt like dying had manifested it.
I never imagined then that I would someday be grateful for the astounding ways that the knowledge of this tumor would change my life. I wake up each day with a joy for life and a deep sense of peace (most mornings it takes a cup of coffee first!). I feel deeply loved and supported by my family as well as by friends, in a way that I could not previously let into my heart. I have gone from such anger at God, to completely losing any faith I had, to saying prayers of thanks and trusting God completely with my life now. By all outside appearances, I’ll concede that my life does not look so great in terms of what is valued in our society. The life inside of me however, is truly beyond my wildest dreams!
Happy Anniversary, Bob! Thanks for being a quiet guest and for helping me know that life is worth getting out of bed for!
I’m so grateful for each and every one of you for your care, love, and support.
As always, more will be revealed…
6 thoughts on “Two Years, Better Than Ever!”
Thank You for sharing a strong journey towards the sense of Gratitude
A journey full of courage, humor and deep strength. Thank You ❤
XXX from Mithi
Hi Mithi, I hope some day we will meet in person. Thank you for reading my blog and for your beautiful comments. I believe we all inspire one another when we share our stories. With love, Dawn
Sending much Lovevamd appreciation for you
You have always been an amazing woman
Your journey on this life’s path only strengthens my gratitude for you and Bil W’s friends
I see a book here for you
Hi Dr. Karen! Thank you so much for your message and compliments! I am grateful to know you & to have spent time with you in FL. Thank God for Bill & friends of! Keep trudging that happy road.
Dawn, I’m so happy for you! I’ve learned over and over again that Docs often don’t know what they are talking about…especially when it comes to the brain or any kind of mental disorder. I still have chronic depression and occasionally have to change the dosage or type of meds I’m on. I’m continuously sober after all these years! 33 years of adventure, some frightening and some with peace in the knowledge that God loves me. Denver is doing well after “the powers that be” finally put him on disability and Medicare. He has been exonerated of all the awful things he was accused of…accept one last thing and that should be over this month. His physical injuries have become worse, but he makes the best of it. His thinking process is much improved. When he’s tired or hasn’t eaten, he can be unreasonable…..but he knows it and we work out things later. Yours in Recovery! Alice
Hi Alice, Thank you for your message! I’m right there with you on the chronic depression and meds! I am very happy to hear that Denver’s situation has improved so much, that is wonderful news. Be well & happy journey in recovery, xo Dawn